Sex After Kids
It's completely normal for your sex life to change after kids! But you can get the spark back.
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Sex After Kids?
you got kids, ah? Then you know your sex life go bye-bye for a while, right? Uncle Roger understand. You so tired from chasing little monsters, you don't even want to chase your own partner. But listen here, you can fix this. You can get that sexy time back. I'll give you some simple, no-nonsense tips.
An author and family adviser
From Uncle Roger
Why Your Sexy Time Go Missing
First, you must understand why this happen. It's not your fault!
Tired: Your body and brain are running on empty. You need sleep more than you need... well, you know.
No Time Alone: You got little ones following you everywhere. How to get romantic with an audience?
Body Feel Different: Your body change after baby. Maybe you not confident. It’s okay. Be kind to yourself.
Mommy/Daddy Brain: You think about diapers and school, not about romance. Your brain is a parent brain, not a lover brain.
Interruption: You finally get a moment, and you hear a little footstep outside the door. Aiyo! The mood, she gone.
Smart Ways to Get Back . . .
Okay, listen closely. These are not fancy tricks. These are simple, smart ways to get back on track.
Talk-Talk
Step 1
Sometimes the conversation is the hardest part. You don't know how to start without making it awkward. Uncle Roger helps you. Try these:
"You know, I miss our time together before the kids. How can we get a little bit of that back?"
"I’ve been so tired lately, but I still want to be close to you. What do you think we can do?"
Schedule It!
Step 2
Aiyo, you think so? Not romantic is never having sex! Put it in the calendar, just like you schedule dentist appointment. This way, you both know it’s coming, and you can get excited. It’s like waiting for your favorite dim sum cart.
"But Uncle Roger, scheduling sex is not romantic!"
You can even find special "sex calendars" or apps for this. Yes, they exist! You and your partner can choose a time, mark it down, and build up the anticipation.
Start with Small Touches
Step 3
Don't jump straight to the main course. Start with appetizers. Hold hands, give a long hug, kiss your partner just because. These little touches remind your body and brain that you are connected. It builds up the appetite for more.
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Try Different Times & Places
Step 4
You think sexy time only happens in bed at night? No! Be smart. Maybe a quick morning session before the kids wake up. Or during naptime. Find a new kitchen counter, maybe? Be creative, lah.
Bonus Tip
How Many Ways Are There? Uncle Roger not going to count every single position for you! But let’s just say there are many more than the few you always do.
Be open to trying new things! It can be like discovering a new delicious ingredient in your favorite dish.
Uncle Roger’s Final Wisdom
Remember, a good relationship is like a good bowl of rice. It needs care and attention. Don't let your kids be the only thing on the menu. You and your partner are the foundation. Now, go fix your life and make some sexy time happen. And stop wasting my time! Haiyaaa.
Uncle Roger